Oddly enough, my job in OEF in 01-02 was that of calling in air strikes. In my Area of Operations our ROE required JDAMs only to be used on all "delicate targets in populated areas." During this time the F-14D had no JDAM capability. The F-14D went operational with JDAM on March 1st, 2003 in time for OIF.
Although, in my missions I had very little experience with targets in urban areas, infact the one time I called in a JDAM strike on a target of this type it was an orbiting BUFF that released the weapon.
I did have experience using Tomcats, and for the most part they performed well and got good effects, but I'm not going to say they performed any better than any other airframe. We never under any circumstance called for any airframe over another. Boots on the ground don't make that call. We call for the ordinance that will destroy the target, honestly we could care less what a/c is carring it, what branch of service it is from, or in certain cases what nationality the pilot is, as long as the target is serviced.
I think the analogy you heard was just some hopeful boasting from Tomcat people. I'm sure F-15E/F-18F/B-52H/B-1B/B-2A/F-16C etc. people all said the exact same thing.
Antherthing to note is, the "3rd story window, 2nd from the right" thing is a bunch of hogwash. It also doesn't really matter. When you are hitting a structure with a 2000 pound bomb, especially one in Afghanistan, no matter where you hit it, the occupants are going to have a bad day. Also the guidance capabilities of the Tomcat D and Strike Eagle were on par with each other (although I can't recall if the E's were using the LITENING II targeting pod in '01) the bombing from both a/c were on par with each other as well.
I'm in no way saying anything bad about the Tomcat or saying the Strike Eagle is way better. I'm just trying to provide an unbiased viewpoint to your statement.