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Ok, in the beginning of July, my mother had a real bad fall in our house. She broke her shoulder really bad. So bad that the EMT’s couldn’t find her pulse. Thankfully I was still in bed and on my nightstand I had my life line button to call for help. After few minutes (it felt like hours though), the EMT came. My mom asked them to get me up and put me in my electric wheelchair. And they did after they put on pants on me. 

As I was getting ready for contacting my cousin, I heard a knock on the door. As I was struggling to open the door (I’ll give that context soon), my cousin came in the house from the back sliding door. She said to me afterwards that what she saw in the house and saw me, she was about to cry. I’ll be very frank from now on so be patient with me. The house currently (yes currently I’ll explain soon) is a real hazard. Trash everywhere and neglected things around the house. My cousin told me that I was underweight and dehydrated. My eye sockets were sucked in. Do you remember the times I said I couldn’t be in streams (not for stomach issues, I had those) sometimes? It was because I got up real late (sometimes around 7pm) and haven’t eaten yet.  So my cousin brought me to her home with her husband. I stayed there for few days mainly because both my cousin and her husband work. My cousin is a travel nurse, she had to start working again or lose her job. So they put me in a rehab/nursing facility. The main reason the house is a real hazard for me and for my mom is that my mother just gave up. She was slowly giving up of cleaning the house after my stepfather died in 2011. She unknowingly neglected me as well. I’m not mad at that, sometimes people don’t think right when they didn’t grieve right away or even after a year etc.

Ok this will hard for me to tell you this. My mother isn’t mentally well. You see in 2012, my mom had breast cancer and had chemotherapy. They tutored you before your treatment and they said you had to keep your brain active or you’ll get “chemo brain”.  From my understanding it’s type of dementia. My mom didn’t do that so right now it’s getting worse.  The reason I knew about that is in 2013 I had testicular cancer. Had the same tutorial. But I kept my brain active by reading books and magazines. I went to this nursing home few times as a respite so i know the building. My mom was there for rehab but well let's say she let her shoulder healed improperly. I was supposed to stay in there for a month. But I was in four months when my cousin found out my former caseworker was dragging her feet. at one point, my former caseworker told my cousin to get me out of the nursing home because my former caseworker "found out" someone was purposely dragging this out so I'll be a permanment in there. ok, I noticed that I left out why I was in a nursing home. My house was a real hazard, trash was everywhere etc. My former caseworker was to get 3 cleaning companies to evalate/bid to clean the house. It should of been a month or two to do this by my cousin's and my research (when I was in there for 3 months). But anyway my cousin told my former caseworker no because we was told by my former caseworker I can't go home until my home was safe. My cousin and I think my former caseworker did that to cover her ass. Jump by this month, I won't drag this any further but my house is kinda safe but my area (my pc and tv) is still flithy and cluttered. I'm home. My cousin will help declutter and clean my area for aide service in future (I don't know when though) this weekend. There's more but I wanted to post this first.

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Look after yourself, my friend! You'll get through this; we’re here to support you. I’ll be sending you positive vibes!

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Yeah no really that's a struggle to get, and my own Mom went through chemo for some cancer stuff. So yeah sending some positive vibes as well.

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