If you start a new post asking new specific questions, you are probably more likely to have other people answer your questions than if somebody has to read all the way to the bottom of this thread.
Part of the "buzzing" around you is written into the AI routine of each plane, so until you move up to that step, you may have to live with that for awhile. Different formations will help but not completely eliminate this problem, try them and see how you like them. After all, like I said way up the thread, one of the strengths of FE/FE2 is that you can mod "almost" everything once you figure it out.
And congratulations, you are now on the way to an enjoyable FE2 career.