I dont have YAP's KC-135, but I'm sure it's missing the Pilot Direction Indicator lights that I use to coach the receiver into position. The PDIs give fore and aft, up and down signals tell the receiver where they are in the refueling envelope. Prior to contact, I control them using my left hand, and the system takes over once contact is made and gives corrections based on set parameters in relation to where the boom/receiver aircraft is.
Once you get used to flying behind the tanker, you'll eventually establish a sight picture of what the contact position looks like and you'll use that to stay "hooked up".
Good luck and try not to kill the tanker ;) They cant call Breakaway.
Storm
P.S. Zerocinco, the flight lead will come straight to Pre-contact now, while the rest of the flight will move to the left wing observation position. If it's larger than a 4-ship, I spread them out on both wings and cycle them on, one at a time, left, right, left and so on.